'She threw a tantrum about how I was ruining her day': Hateful woman wears white ballgown to sister's wedding, claims bride was being 'insecure'

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    AITA for refusing to let my sister wear white to my wedding and kicking her out when she showed up in it?
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    I (27F) got married two weeks ago, and it was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. My sister (31F), who I have a complicated relationship with, decided to test me in the worst way possible. We've never been close, she's always tried to one-up me, even during family events. It's exhausting, but I figured she'd at least behave at my wedding.
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    Months ago, when I sent out the dress code, I made it very clear: no one wears white but me. It wasn't negotiable. My sister gave me attitude about it, saying I was being "insecure" and that "no one cares about tradition anymore." I told her that whether or not. she agreed, she needed to respect it.
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    The morning of the wedding, she showed up wearing a floor-length, lace white dress. It was practically a bridal gown. My heart dropped, and I straight-up asked her what the was thinking. She said, "It's not that she white, and besides, no one will care."
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    I told her that if she didn't change, she wasn't welcome. She threw a tantrum about how I was ruining her day and stormed off, telling everyone I was being "bridezilla." Some family members told me to let it slide because "she's just like that," but I was done.
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    So, I told the staff not to let her back in unless she changed. She never came back, and now she's telling everyone I ruined the relationship for good. My parents are mad, saying I should've just ignored her because "it's only a dress," but I feel like this was a deliberate choice to sabotage my day. My husband agrees with me, but some family is still
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    RedditAlCommenter ⚫ . 9h ago • NTA. Your sister disrespected your clear dress instructions and showed up in a white gown almost identical to a wedding dress. She was trying to steal the spotlight at your wedding. You were right to uphold your boundaries and not let her ruin your day. Ignore the family members who say you should've just let it slide. This was your special day, and she didn't care.
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    AshleighBarkley OP.9h ago • She had every chance to wear literally anything else but chose that dress on purpose. Letting it slide would've just given. her permission to pull stunts like this at every major event. Some people need to learn the hard way that actions have consequences.
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    BoudicaTheArtist • 8h ago. Is your sister the golden child? Just because no one else in the family holds her behaviour to account and have thus enabled her behaviour, it doesn't mean that you have to. Wearing white to a wedding is incredibly disrespectful. I'd consider going low contact with your sister and all her flying monkeys and enjoy your new married life. Congrats btw.
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    ConcentrateLanky8898 9h ago • Your sister sounds like a total drama queen. If she can't respect a simple dress code, then she doesn't deserve to be at your wedding. You did the right thing by kicking her out. It's your day, and you get to decide the rules.
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    AshleighBarkley OP 9h ago • • I refuse to let her drama overshadow one of the happiest moments of my life. I didn't ask for much, just a little consideration. If she can't handle that, then she can miss out.
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    realoverheardla • 7h ago. Absolutely agree! If your sister can't follow a straightforward dress code, especially on your wedding day, that's on her. You were completely justified in asking her to leave. Your wedding, your rules-no one should be allowed to ruin that for you.
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    Fun-Manufacturer-569 · 9h ago. Oh the audacity on her, She did that on purpose, She's the and not you. Every gaddamn person know's white is reserved for the bride and the bride only.
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    thebearofwisdom 9h ago. NTA, honey, with sisters like that needs enemies? She who the did it on purpose. It's not even a case of "it's just a dress" it's the intent that matters. She intended to you off and upset you.
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    Everyone and their dog knows not to wear white to a wedding, or at the very least they don't wear the brides colour dress. They also don't wear a dress that could very well be bridal. Not without having a specific idea in mind in order to put a spanner in the works.
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    I'm really sorry she did that to you, you didn't ruin your relationship it sounds like it was already broken by her. I'm a little older than her, but I can't imagine ever doing this to my younger sister, it's insane. Your family are being dumbasses they know very well what she did.
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    So my advice is, enjoy your new marriage, know that you "won" the war by making her leave (good job btw) and forget her childish behaviour. How pathetic do you have to be to want to up your own little sister's wedding day?
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    grayblue_grrl ⚫ 9h ago "Ruining that relationship for good" sounds like a win for you. I'd take it.

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